Tuesday, February 16, 2010

My Wonderful Valentine

     Good week everyone! Right, how many things do I have in my head today? Not many, but I do feel a swollen head from the enormity of the thoughts in it. First is a song or should I call it classical music piece that I have been playing in my head over and over, and over again. Lovely piece though and since I’m have no clue on how to write music ( my droll music teacher in secondary school killed it for me) I’ll simply refer everyone to the movie I heard it from. The movie is called the, I think, "Valentine Caveman" starring Samuel L Jackson as a homeless classical music genius who had so many spirits playing in his head, both good and bad. 

Now I know why the blues I’ve been feeling have been playing this song over in my head! Valentine’s day and Frieda. I had a horrible Val’s weekend and she’s still not talking to me. All we’ve talked about since then have been plans of what we want to do for the next three months, business, what to do, which family to call but no playful pulling of the cheeks, even the “I love yous”  have been brassy. I wouldn’t even dare smack her on the bottom let alone venture between them – but, hehehe, I do know that when it does happen, it will be well worth the wait! That piece has been playing in my head ever since and has been so apt via the one star instrument I know that comes nearest to expressing complexities of my thoughts that even the spoken language cannot, the piano. Its ability to make me transcend the normalities around me to the pure subliminal sphere where my mind always wants to be, with its erratic yet consistent and purposeful fluttering like that of a butterfly, makes her my favourite of all musical instruments.

 The fight was about one of the stalwarts of any relationship, finance. And it was my fault, too. We had agreed to set aside some money for a project this February but I went and used it for something else thinking I’d get the money needed from someone who owed me from a project I’d done a week earlier. Alas the money was not forthcoming and the bubble burst when she suddenly asked me about it, with love shining in her eyes, on the stupid lovers’ day. You should have seen the stunned shock and then the hurt that filled her eyes before they completely frosted over and then came the metallic tone she always uses when talking aggressive business. My day took the plunge of a parachuteless skydiver. It’s been business and courtesy ever since although I must say she has been thawing out gradually and steadily – trust my skills now; I’m a bigz boyz!
 It has taught me though, and it’s painful too, that I’m not a sole proprietor anymore and that finances in a relationship should never be joked with, even with the sweetest of them, and trust me, she is, if I’m ever going to live in peace and harmony in a co-habiting relationship. So baby, I’m sorry, I promise to work hard at not doing it again. So as regards tonight, all sanctions lifted? Still thinking about it? I’ll wait im-, patiently…

  This week’s post is dedicated to an illustrious son of our beloved country. Like I said before, my dear country is too bigz to be brought down; we are an amazingly unique people. We may not have had the kind of leaders committed to steering us in the right direction but we, the collective, never fail to shine as stars. Just when we were groaning under the weight of the shame one of ours, a would be terrorist, brought on us, another, has the dream of representing us in the coming winter Olympics 2014, after he’s done beating his leukemia! Yes my friends, as I write now Seun Adebiyi has just had a, and I hope successfully, bone marrow transplant. That the least of his feats. You should go to his blog and feel the full force of the positive energy emanating from this young man. The man loves to live and clearly loves to share too. I don’t mean the desperate clinging onto life because you’re terrified of the unknown. No, I mean the celebration of life so much so that you notice the beauty of the little things in life; the smile of a labourer trudging home from work as he sees his little ones rushing out to greet him and seizing his bag of weary tools, remembering the best summers in your life while going through its worst blizzards and so much more. His winning smile alone embodies his whole perspective to life even with his swollen face from the abrasive drugs he’s been pumped with to fight organ or tissue rejection. I’d go on and on and still not do Seun any justice but I enjoin all of us to rally round him and give him our best support; he embodies our good nature and strong will and desire for success. I will be following his progress and will write on him from time to time. (Seun's Blog)

  Okay this is getting a bit long so I’ll have to pen off here till next week. Let’s be happy, be more prayerful, not give up dreaming and work hard to achieve our dreams! Have a great week everyone, and me, I hope I get a Valentine’s day extension – tonight!                  

14 comments:

  1. AWW what can i say i can't give you any lecture now that you have realized your mistake. Money can make or break the best relationships i hope next time you will let her into your plans. I am loving Frieda she is wholesome and you are very lucky to have someone like her i bet you compliment each other i hope i will meet you both when next i come home or drop a note if you guys are in the uk. There are many more valentine to come so i hope it gets better and better. You are appreciated.

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  2. Cant wait till the next edition

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  3. I salute men of courage like Suen.Thanks for sharing his story so we can tap from his courage. Well,You are lucky you had a fight with Frieda, good for her, she won't let you slack. I spent my valentine doing laundry and visited a couple friends in the hospital. I took them flowers then my 87 years old friend thanked me and gave them back to me since he was not able to go buy me some, so i technically bought myself flowers for valentine, better last valentine.

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  4. Dats realy nice 4 u 2 realize ur mistake.ladies are soft,mild,gentle n extremist but wen pushed so u no hw u handle Fredie.i wish u al d best in al d days of val in ds yr n many more yrs 2 come.pls tak it cool on her ds nite.lv u guys

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  5. I Love ur literature

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  6. Thanks for the optimistic reminder of Seun Adebiyi's message of hope. We needed that, we can't afford any more pessimism or to be turned into a nation of complainers.

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  7. You can really express your self in writing how about writing a book.

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  8. Quite possible one of your best blog enteries. Very nice!

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  9. I like this, the little comment thrown in about managing finances as a team in a relationship and the paragraph on Seun, God bless him.

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  10. Hi K,

    Did you ever think of my, her and our accounts, just kidding. Going to Seun`s blog.

    Thanks for the blog.

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  11. at least theres always the make up sex to look forward to bigz boyz (I didnt know jenifa had a male counterpart in you kalu lol)
    frieda sounds awesome (not sucking up cos i know she reads your comments)
    frieda!! frieda!! pls forgive him! he is male afterall, a victim of his sex, a sex known for their silliness inspite of their awesomeness! extend his vals day frieda so he doesnt come here to whine and onload? on us lol
    i guess vals turned out differently than what we anticipated p.s didnt zipline so .... :(
    i will check seun out!

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  12. Nice article, keep it up. Cheers

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  13. LOL Kalu, I sincerly hope that you did not spend that money on the bike you have so been coveting... Coz if so,I give Frieda the go ahead to brood further over the next three months!! Jokes aside though, it is those life lessons that one learns and takes from everyday experiences that enables one to better their person! Good job Kalu!

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  14. I thank you for the good job u r doing,God will c u through all the tough times,have uaself a wonderful easter holiday.
    This is Phoser,one of ua fans from Kenya.

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